Stages of Forgiveness: Stage 6

September 30, 2011

By Dr. Allen Novian


Stage 6: Develop Genuine Neutrality


Hopefully, in the process of forgiveness, you will come to resolve any negative emotions and thoughts about yourself and the other person or organization.  To do so requires that you do not expect or demand any payment or restitution after forgiveness.  You must assume that there is  no debt to you.  Mother Teresa once said, “It is between God and myself, it was never between me and them anyway.”  This must be practiced daily.  It is easy to slip into anger and resentment if you do not cultivate a practice of neutrality. Depending on the severity of the event, you may choose to not have any further contact with the person, but if you meet them by chance, you want to have a sense of neutrality and a sense of calmness instead of avoidance.


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