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    What's The Brain Got to Do with It
    • Feb 19, 2019

    What's The Brain Got to Do with It

    Dr. Novian gave this presentation as a CEU at the San Antonio Association of Relational Therapists (SAART) on Tuesday, February 12, 2019. Dr. Novian explains how he approaches therapy and defines his NeuroIntegrative Approach as it pertains to relationships and communication. While this talk was intended for counselors, therapists, social workers and others in the mental health field, the information is applicable to anyone who wants to improve communication skills and self
    • Feb 13, 2015

    14 Questions for Valentine's Day

    With Valentine's Day only hours away, I wanted to share an activity that my wife and I do on a regular basis. We have found that there are certain questions that help us connect and open up the possibility for deeper conversation about where our relationship stands today, how we have succeeded in the past, and where we could still benefit from some work. This video contains 14 questions to discuss with your loved one. The first video is very short, and walks you through all
    • Dec 9, 2014

    Holiday Hope

    December 9, 2014 Dr. Allen Novian The holidays always seem to be filled with more expectations than excitement, which can bring out the worst in us at times. Finding hope, joy and peace is an expectation of most of us at Christmastime, but actually finding any of those things can sometimes be a hard nut to crack. Between remembering those who have passed, looking at the chaos of the stores and streets, juggling the Christmas parties, recitals, school events, and untangling
    Stress Comes, but Don't Turn Away!
    • Oct 9, 2013

    Stress Comes, but Don't Turn Away!

    By Dr. Allen Novian In times of high stress, including the current government shutdown, therapy often gets shoved to the bottom of the priority list, and relationships which are already struggling with miscommunications, differences of opinion on how to address the children, or who are trying to work through infidelity find themselves struggling even more as a family. People find themselves turning to alternative sources of comfort, and away from each other instead of turning
    Fighting Fair: part 2
    • May 10, 2013

    Fighting Fair: part 2

    by Brianne Lutterman, MA, NCC, LPC-Intern On the last section, I talked about venting your relationship problems with your spouse/significant other to family members and friends. Problems arise within your relationship when venting to others instead of resolving the issue with your spouse. Not only does venting affect your marriage, but can also impact your relationship with your friends and family. Instead of holding your grudges in while saying to yourself, “I just don’t wa
    Fighting Fair: Venting in Relationhips
    • May 8, 2013

    Fighting Fair: Venting in Relationhips

    By Brianne Lutterman, MA, NCC, LPC-Intern Supervised by Dr. Allen Novian, PhD, LMFT, LPC-S Hello, My name is Brianne Lutterman, and I am new to Novian Counseling & Neuroeducation, but I am certainly glad to be here. I wanted to take a look at relationships, and communicating with friends and family about your marriage in a negative way. While I recognize the benefit that venting to friends has in the moment, the aftermath is not always so great. When you vent to close friend
    Introducing Brianner Lutterman, MA, NCC, LPC-Intern
    • May 8, 2013

    Introducing Brianner Lutterman, MA, NCC, LPC-Intern

    By Dr. Allen Novian Update: We are so proud of Brianne for becoming a FULLY LICENSED LPC!!! She has moved on to other career opportunities upon receiving her license, and we wish her all the best in her future as a Licensed Professional Counselor. While Brianne is no longer with iCNS, we look forward to bringing in new LPC-Interns to offer counseling, neurofeedback, and biofeedback services in the near future. Original Post: We are SO excited to be welcoming a new member of
    Stages of Forgiveness: Stage 6
    • Sep 30, 2011

    Stages of Forgiveness: Stage 6

    By Dr. Allen Novian Stage 6: Develop Genuine Neutrality Hopefully, in the process of forgiveness, you will come to resolve any negative emotions and thoughts about yourself and the other person or organization. To do so requires that you do not expect or demand any payment or restitution after forgiveness. You must assume that there is no debt to you. Mother Teresa once said, “It is between God and myself, it was never between me and them anyway.” This must be practiced
    Stages of Forgiveness: Stage 4
    • Sep 28, 2011

    Stages of Forgiveness: Stage 4

    By Dr. Allen Novian on September 28, 2011 Stage 4: Stop Punishing one of the common behaviors of people is to try to punish those who have harmed us. Most studies have shown that punishment rarely teaches anything other than to resent the person doing the punishing! Some of the ways you may punish are by withholding companionship, giving someone the silent treatment, or even giving compliments but then taking it back with an insult. You may try to go further with legal act
    Stages of Forgiveness: Stage 3
    • Sep 15, 2011

    Stages of Forgiveness: Stage 3

    By Dr. Allen Novian Stage 3: Submit to a feeling of Vulnerability The next stage in forgiveness is to open yourself to change and dissonance. You cannot spread butter when it is hard and cold. Forgiveness does not come easily when your ideas, thoughts of revenge or justice are hardened. You must retreat and re-examine your approach. Just like a pound of butter, if you want to forgive and heal, you need to let your ideas thaw and be molded into a new perspective, combined w
    Stages of Forgiveness: Stage 2
    • Sep 6, 2011

    Stages of Forgiveness: Stage 2

    By Dr. Allen Novian Stage 2: Acknowledge the Loss and Consequences In order to fully forgive, you need to look at the consequences of the event. By consequences, I do not mean just emotional pain. Look at the past and the present, and honestly note any changes. Were you physically injured? Were you emotionally hurt? Did you suffer financial loss? What other types of losses occurred? Was there harm to other relationships? To achieve lasting forgiveness it is important
    Stages of Forgiveness: Stage 1
    • Aug 23, 2011

    Stages of Forgiveness: Stage 1

    By Dr. Allen Novian on August 23, 2011 There are 7 stages of forgiveness and they are as follows: Stage 1: Admit you are angry! Stage 2: Acknowledge the Loss and Consequences! Stage 3: Submit to a feeling of Vulnerability Stage 4: Stop Punishing Stage 5: Identify some good in the other person Stage 6: Develop Genuine Neutrality Stage 7: Stay in the Present Today, I want to focus on Stage 1: Admit You Are Angry! Many of us will echo the thoughts of “What? I’m not supposed to g
    • Apr 8, 2011

    Stages of Forgiveness Part 1

    Moving from Anger and Resentment to Compassion and Love Much has been written about forgiveness. Everywhere you turn people are saying you have to forgive, yet few people likely understand the process of true forgiving. For true healing, forgiveness is essential. The same holds true for the idea of compassion. Yet I have learned that going from anger straight to compassion does not bring about true forgiveness. It only creates a sense of pseudo forgiveness. Many people try to
    • Apr 6, 2011

    Happiness is a Choice

    By Dr. Allen Novian Happiness is A Choice: An Inside Out Perspective While I am not a "Christian Counselor" and I work with people of all religions and backgrounds, I am, myself, a Christian, and I thought this message was applicable, not just to people of a Christian faith, but to everyone. This is about making important choices in life and then sticking with them. Choosing to be happy and content is one such choice we can make. We may not be able to control the events that
    An Exercise in Gratitude
    • Jun 23, 2010

    An Exercise in Gratitude

    By Dr. Allen Novian This exercise is meant to encourage healthy, positive conversations. Often, couples get so caught up in the negative, critical, or stress-laden conversations throughout their day that the positive interactions we crave get pushed to the wayside. The fact is that positive conversations need to be practiced so that the negative conversations do not create a downward spiral. Positive conversations of gratitude happen in a set of 6 easy steps, but they are onl
    Building and Maintaining Trust in Relationships
    • Apr 6, 2010

    Building and Maintaining Trust in Relationships

    By Dr. Allen Novian Is trust, or the lack of it, affecting your relationship? Because your partner has been “burned” in a previous relationship, is he or she now finding it difficult to trust you? Has infidelity in your relationship made it hard for you and your partner to trust each other? If so, you are not alone. When couples are asked to describe a situation that causes distress in their relationship, the topic of trust frequently arises. They lament, “I can’t trust him w
    When the Honeymoon is over
    • Mar 29, 2010

    When the Honeymoon is over

    By Dr. Allen Novian Have you ever heard someone say, “The honeymoon is over,”? When problems crop up in a relationship or marriage, they are like parasitic weeds. At the beginning, they can be small. They are so small, in fact, that they might not even be noticed as problems by either spouse. For example, if Sharon goes out late every Friday night to rub elbows with her coworkers, Alex may at first praise her driven and outgoing nature, and he makes plans with her on a differ
    • Dec 2, 2009

    Holiday Blues

    By Dr. Allen Novian During the holidays, there is an expectation of connection and joy. We are supposed to get together with family, rejoice and sing Christmas carols. But the image of happiness can often be very thin. For many of us, it is a struggle to find the joy of the season because we feel disconnected from those we love, or because the demands of our schedules overwhelm our ability to find peace and relaxation. If this sounds familiar, give me a call. There IS a way t
    • Oct 13, 2009

    C's of the Marrried Relationship Part 4

    By Dr. Allen Novian The final C is Compassion. Acting out of compassion for your spouse and yourself in all things is vital to maintaining a healthy marriage. All too often in relationship, compassion is replaced by selfishness, jealously, and resentment. Compassion involves a continuous desire for your spouse to be happy, to prosper, and to grow in love. This desire is demonstrated in what you think and, more importantly, in what you say to and about your spouse. The most im
    • Oct 12, 2009

    C's of the Married Relationship Part 3

    By Dr. Allen Novian How do we communicate when we can’t stop arguing? Most people look at communication as getting a point across. I instead begin to teach them how to communicate by teaching them to listen to each other and then to voice back to their spouse what they just said before they give their side. This is why I have couples listen to me and repeat to me what I said before they begin to communicate to each other. Communication with me is usually less emotional so it
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